Marriage preparation that starts with two minutes, not a weekend away
Most marriage preparation in Australia is a course you attend: a weekend, a workbook, a facilitator, sometimes a requirement from a church. It is worth doing — and it is also the reason so many couples arrive at the wedding having done the paperwork of preparation without ever having the conversation.
This is the conversation layer. Nine questions each, taken separately, then a shared profile that names how you each handle stress, money, family and the argument that keeps repeating. Free, no account, and finishable tonight.
Two minutes each · no email address · nothing to buy to see your result
What this is not
It is not an accredited pre-marriage course, and it is not couple counselling. If your celebrant or your church requires an accredited programme, do that as well. If your relationship is in real trouble — if anyone is afraid of anyone — a quiz is the wrong tool and a counsellor is the right one; our safety page has the numbers.The five conversations
Not modules. These are the five things couples tell us they wish they had said out loud before the wedding — and each one is easier to say once you have a word for the difference instead of a suspicion about it.
How each of you handles stress
One of you gets faster, one of you goes quiet, and both of you think the other has stopped caring. Naming the default is the whole first step — and it is the step most couples skip until year three.
Money, in your own language
Not a budget exercise. Why one of you needs a buffer and the other needs to book the trip, and what each of those means about safety rather than about being sensible.
Family, and the wedding you are planning for them
Seating plans are the visible argument. The hidden one is whose family sets the temperature of your Christmas for the next thirty years, and neither of you decided that out loud.
The argument that repeats
Every couple has one. It is not a sign you are wrong for each other; it is two defaults colliding in the same place every time. Once you can describe its shape, you can interrupt it before the fourth round.
The first year, when the planning stops
For eighteen months there has been a project. Then there is a Tuesday. The couples who do well in that Tuesday are the ones who learned to talk before the wedding, not the ones who had the biggest one.
How it runs
1. Nine questions each, separately
Two minutes per person, on your own phone. No names, no account, nothing stored against your identity. Do not compare answers half way through — that turns a description into a scoreboard.
2. A colour profile each
How you naturally give information, what you need when things go wrong, and the blind spot you cannot see from inside it. Not a label — six colours, and most people are a mix.
3. A couple profile you can act on
Where you align, where you collide, and the specific repair for each collision — written for the two of you rather than for couples in general. You can print the CYL Wedding Ready certificate at the end if you like something on the wall.
What it costs
The quiz and the couple profile
Both colours, the comparison, the repair prompts. No account required.
Human sessions
A coach reads both profiles before you meet and works through one real argument with you. Booked by arrangement for now.
Marriage preparation questions
- Is this an accredited marriage preparation course in Australia?
- No, and we would rather say it here than have you find out later. It is a free communication programme, not an accredited pre-marriage course. If your church, your celebrant or your own requirements call for an accredited course, do that one as well — this sits alongside it, and it is the part you will actually still be using in year two.
- Do we have to attend a weekend or a class?
- No. Nine questions each, on your own phones, two minutes per person. There is no session to book, no facilitator, no group, and nothing to attend — which is precisely why couples finish it during the busiest year of their lives.
- What does it cost?
- The quiz and the couple profile are free, with no account and no card. The colour guides are A$19 each if you want one. Anything beyond that is either a guide or a human session, and where a session is not bookable online yet the page says so instead of quoting a price.
- Does it satisfy the paperwork requirements for getting married in Australia?
- There is no quiz requirement in Australian marriage law. What the law does require is that your Notice of Intended Marriage is given to your celebrant at least one month before the ceremony, plus the identity and previous-marriage documents they ask for. That is your celebrant’s job, not ours — we do not give legal advice, and any page that claims to is one to be careful with.
- Is this the same as an accredited pre-marriage course?
- No, and we do not pretend otherwise. Accredited programmes such as Prepare/Enrich are run by trained facilitators and are what some churches and counsellors require. This is the conversation layer underneath: two minutes each, a shared vocabulary, and the five topics Australian couples tell us the planning skips. If your celebrant or church requires an accredited course, do that as well — the two are not in competition.
- Can we start before we have set a date?
- Yes, and it is the best time. Before the date, the venue list and the guest list exist, the two of you are still choosing things together by preference rather than by deadline — which is the easiest the whole engagement will ever be.
Two minutes each. Tonight, if you can.
It is the cheapest item on your wedding list and the only one still in use in year three.